A year ago, this weekend, my Dad made his transition from this life, to the next.
Though we did not know it, my husband Robin's Mom was preparing to make her transition too. She left this earth one week to the day of my Dad's passing.
There are many things in life you just have to live through.
Mother's Day is meant to be a beautiful celebration of life, love and nurturing, and happily, for many, it is. I am so grateful for the many beautiful Mother's Day celebrations I've experienced.
But now, I understand better why Mother's Day has become something some of us just have to live through.
Whether you find yourself missing someone who is no longer here literally or figuratively; whether you sit at the headstone of a well-documented life or at the little unmarked grave of what could have been; whether you can talk about it or not breathe a word of it; and whether or not this has anything to do with mothers or mothering: you are not alone.
This is for you. For us.
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No one tells you this:
you'll know when it's happening
but not what it means
though it may look like
just one thing changed, it will feel
like nothing's the same
some things we can't know
we have to feel our way through
live all the way through
and especially
when we want to live them least
we will learn the most
like what to do when
you can't seem to catch your breath
from all the crying
or that it's ok
to not feel bad when you don't
though you think you should
then there's what it is
to not be over it, when
some think you should be
you learn, finally
nothing ever changes change
it is who we are
each of us will change
everyone else will change too
that's just what we do
earthly clothes will fall
we may drench the earth with tears
but still, the sun shines
make peace with knowing
all we are ever promised
is right here, right now
© Jenny Bienemann